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So, this is my very first blog, ever, so hopefully I don’t disappoint you! I thought about keeping things light for my first blog, maybe discuss something like “Learn the Right Way to Tip Your Server” or “Why Don’t More People Recycle?”, but I’ve decided to delve right in and discuss the issue of gay marriage. Maybe because the topic is on my mind with today being election day, but I do have some strong opinions on the matter.
First of all, I am not gay, so unfortunately my opinion does come from a heterosexual female. However, I do feel that I have a strong understanding (or as much as an outsider can have) of the need for rights and understanding. It is not just about being recognized as equal, but being recognized as different. Gays are different and they accept that and embrace it, but should not be denied anything because of that. Gay rights are always a topic of discussion during election times and many times throughout the year, because they are lacking!
The LGBT community fights constantly for same-sex marriage and other rights, just like blacks fought for their rights in the 1960’s and still today. The civil rights era is not behind us, it is just a struggle more for different people now and it is a shame. Many people say it is a religious issue, however I find that hard to comprehend. I, myself, am not a religious person, however I have studied many religions and have learned their stance on same-sex marriage. Many say that it is “unnatural” or “wrong”, but those religious zealots are not condemning people who enter into marriage and then get a divorce a year later, or those who marry and are not religious at all. If a person does not see marriage as a religious state, should they be allowed to marry? The people who use religion as an argument against same-sex marriage tend to cherry-pick from the bible about how wrong it is and what a sin it is to just be homosexual. These people don’t tell you that the bible also says that it is a sin to eat shellfish or that you should buy slaves from neighboring countries, but these things have all been written by men in a different time. Times change. Marriage can mean different things to different people and does not have to be a religious endeavour.
Some people, although I think they are the minority, just feel it is wrong, especially if the couple decides to have children. I think this is the most stupid argument ever. There are so many things wrong in this world and two people that actually love each other enough to fight for marriage and then fight to adopt a child are definitely NOT one of those things! The majority of children that are abused, orphaned or worse, are not from the home of same-sex parents. Gay marriage shouldn’t even have to be called “Same-sex marriage” or “gay marriage”, it should just be marriage, like any heterosexual marriage. It is a shame that this has to be an issue that is such a struggle.
I’m not an expert, I certainly don’t claim to be, so I’m just offering my opinion on this matter. I have researched this issue in an undergrad class and presented a report with my findings, so I do have some resources if anyone is interested. I’ll post a few links below:
http://normallemons.wordpress.com/2010/11/02/a-tale-of-two-mommies/#comment-223
http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_marr.htm
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/news/gay-marriage
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=112448663
http://www.mcall.com/news/local/allentown/mc-allentown-same-sex-benefits-20101101,0,6867494.story